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Before I answer you, I have a few questions.Frank wants to tell his father himself rather than ask his mother to do it?Perhaps Frank wants his father to not doubt that it's true so he needs to tell him directly.Also, Frank can't write down what he has to tell his father and leave it for him to read, in the hope that his father will come to him instead of Frank having to come to his father?Who comes out first makes a difference, because if Frank's father confronts him and asks about the sexuality of his "perfect little princess," I imagine that all what your friend Frank should say in that situation is "Yes". I hope writing it out will worry your friend less than saying it to his father's face. If Frank is unhesitant writing to his father about it, then I don't see him getting worried after doing so. He won't have to worry about going to his father himself. When his father confronts him, he won't have to face indecision, because it would be too late for that by then. Things will happen on their own from then on.Writing it down may get rid of the feeling that the confrontation is imminent. In other words, it's not like his father is standing before him as he writes down his feelings. Frank would not sense imminent conflict and would have resources to choose his words carefully with this approach. Frank won't have to make any major decisions after putting it down on paper and leaving it where his father will see it later on, since his father will find out on his own. If Frank does not know whether his father has read it, or if his father has not confronted him about it yet, then I hope Frank can relax over time. The longer his father has not mentioned Frank's thoughts (usually over a long period time), the less Frank has to worry that he will have to talk to his father about them in the next 5 seconds. If that's the case, then Frank won't need to worry or prepare himself for a confrontation after it's been a while (My younger brother, for example, dislikes flu shots, but it's not like he's scared for the entire year just waiting for them). I'm not confident that this is right. In fact, I'm sure I'm missing the point somehow but I just don't know it. I'm being naive. I hope you won't be mad at me since I might be misunderstanding most of the situation and saying it with disgusting confidence... or since I misunderstood from the very beginning and the more I keep talking the more bothersome it is. Although I don't know Frank, I still want to give you a detailed and frank suggestion. I might be suggesting what you've already tried. No, this is just my long, drawn-out, and maybe pointless suggestion. I'm quite the hypocrite. I said I needed to ask you something first but then I ended up giving you the above...
You think something major like this would be better off with writing? You know how nerve wracking it can be to leave a message then think about the reaction when you get home? You also don't seem to grasp the difference between transgender and sexuality. And why is your font so small to begin with?The fact that you're making puns towards the end is a little sickening, it is kind of a serious situation.At any rate, I don't think this place is the best place to ask. The transgender folk I don't think have a particularly powerful relationship with their parents and the rest of us don't have our gender to worry about (since I was born a male and have 'felt' male my entire life). I don't know what you're expecting from us to be honest, and Liz's second hand experience may just be the best you get. Where's sylar anyway? I wonder how his parents reacted to it.
heyi ain't gonna question frank's certainty too much, but remember to have him really think about how sure he is. because a lot of cases where it's just somehting people leap into ends with people/hospitals paying thousands back to de transition, and it's money some clinics honestly cannot afford to spend on such things when they need to give that money into helping people start transitioning. for example, a trans woman i knew recently began to de-transition after about.. four? years of hormone treatment and surgery. they were fully transitioned when they realised they weren't actually a woman, and now they need to transition back to male again. make sure frank is well aware of this risk. don't make it like you're pushing him out of transitioning, just have him be certain that this is a step he wants to make in his life. [...]i hope i helped a little. if you wanna give frank my skype @ cronus.ampora (screenname is barry ****peas. he'll... know it when he sees it lmao) to talk about it then i might be able to help him through that. i'm not exactly the pinnacle of trans knowledge, but even just having someone on t for a few months to talk to when i was just considering transition was helpful to me personally, maybe it'll help him. good luck!
Although I agree up to some point with Raven because of MasterTroll's cynicism (everything can be done with humour, but the type of humour is key)
I mostly don't in the bold section. It is my opinion, but anything can be asked anywhere. It might be the case that our beloved writer madame <3 does not have anybody else to ask, or simply because she is acknowledge that, since some of use tend to write in the RP section, know how people feel up to some extent. But yes, I agree with you the case is a bit strange.
MasterTroll is draghost who is either an ignoramus or a troll. It's been an issue since like 2007, and I make it a point to reply to those posts so as a means of pointing out to the OP or something that his posts are useless.
DONT LET THE PEOPLE ON STAGE LEFT KNOW THE SCRIPT
if his dad truly loves him (which presumably he does as a parent) then they'll love him no matter what his gender is.
this is a very naive mindset that shouldn't be spread as much as it is...
I think the best thing might be for him to say something like "Dad, did you know <famous person he likes> is really a guy/gal" and see how he reacts?
maybe his mum won't let him kick him out, but there's a possibility his mum's word will get completely ignored lmao. what if his mum's out one day and frank's dad just packs his clothes into a bag and is like "alright out" because his mum's not there to protest? i feel like i'm getting a bit obtuse here but maaan you'll be surprised what lengths transphobic parents will go to at times.But his dads going to find out eventually, presumably? Like he could try to keep it a secret but there's only so long he can pretend he's still female round his dad before something slips, right? And I'd say his dad is a lot more likely to be understanding if he was told by Frank rather than if he found out by accidentalso,i know i was the one to suggest this, and i don't mean to be nitpicky which i know i probably am being at this point, but 'really a guy/gal'? what? that's gross, don't say that. be careful with this sort of thing in general. trans people aren't 'really a guy/girl' based on what they are biologically. i'm not really a girl, im really a guy with a biologically female body. trans people really don't appreciate the insinuation that they're not actually what they identify as. it's better to say "did you know x is actually transgender?", and if he doesn't know what that is, he tells him what transgender is. there's no 'they're really a guy/gal' about it.Sorry, I didn't think about the wording of that very well, but I didn't mean to offend anyone, I've just not spoken to a (known as) trans person so I wouldn't know how they word themselves. I suppose 'is biologically' would've been a slightly more accurate term, but yeah, sorry about thatedit: also make sure not to just pick out some random celebrity. even though it probably won't make it back to them, it's just damaging to imply someone's trans when they're not. it's literally putting their lives in danger for your own coming out, and that's gross too.Oh yeah, I meant one that actually is by that, I just kind of assumed the guy wouldn't try to say a random non-trans celebrity